I admit: I don’t shampoo Beatrice’s hair.
Well, I do, but only infrequently. If she gets covered in mud, we shampoo. If the ends get dunked in her soup, we shampoo. Basically, if there’s obvious crusty dirt we shampoo, but otherwise the extent of her hair care routine involves rinsing with water, brushing out tangles and putting in braids or ponytails.
This works for us on many levels. Shampooing used to be a battle that involved tears and frustration, and drastically reducing the amount of shampooing immediately reduced our conflict at bath time. She gets fewer strange rashes and skin irritation when we skip the shampoo. And her hair still looks just as clean and shiny and lovely as before.
Where have you chosen to “go with the flow” instead of forcing the issue with your child? How did it turn out?