Itâ€™s Thursday and time to check in on my Playful Self-Discipline project. Today Iâ€™m embarking on a new topic for the month of February: Mindfulness. Iâ€™m hoping to take the foundation of physical health that I looked at in January and start building up from there into mental health, spirituality and work. Before I get to all that, however, I want to cultivate a habit of mindfulness.
Attention, Awareness or Mindfulness?
When I sat down to write this, I knew I wanted to focus on, well, my focus. Where does my attention go? Am I even aware of what I am thinking and feeling? Am I aware of how I am spending my time, how I am interacting with my kids or husband or friends or strangers? How can I be more aware and attuned to reality, instead of drifting off in a daydream or spending all day checking facebook? I couldnâ€™t decide what exactly I was getting at – how is attention or awareness different from mindfulness, and what am I really hoping to get out of this monthâ€™s self-discipline project? Because better focus and time management skills are awesome, but Iâ€™m looking for the seed that those fruits will sprout from.
Buddhism for Mothers
I chose to use mindfulness as my focus for February because it reflects the spiritual nature of what I want to get out of my work on playfulness and self-discipline. After announcing my plans for 2011 in January, I got a tweet from @MamaInspiration, who said:
â€œ@TheParentVortex – loved your post. have you read “Buddhism for Mothers” by Sarah Napthali? it is very much in line with your 2011 goals :)â€
Well, I went straight to my public libraryâ€™s website and reserved the first copy of anything written by Sarah Napthali that I could get my hands on immediately, and came home a few days later with Buddhism for Mothers of Young Children. I devoured it. Napthali is inspiring and down to earth and humble and understands the challenges of being mindful and calm and having a spiritual practice while raising small children. And now my curiosity is piqued – I want to learn more about Buddhism and try out mindfulness meditation myself. So I am starting a meditation practice.
A Humble Beginning
For the past two weeks I’ve been aiming to do 10 minutes of meditation a day. I started out meditating in the evenings, after writing but before flossing. I found that I was very tired and buzzed after working on the computer at night, and while meditating was a peaceful way to transition to sleep, I felt like it wasn’t as productive as it could be in the morning. Now I sit for 10 minutes after I bring the girls downstairs in the morning. Tom watches them for a bit before getting ready to leave for work, and it works out ok. 10 minutes is a small enough chunk of time that it feels achievable, even if I haven’t woken up at the crack of dawn.
I’m keeping my ears and eyes open for resources to help me learn some more meditation techniques to use. I donâ€™t really have any formal training or techniques, other than the basic meditation posture and practice of acknowledging thoughts and emotions as they arise and then letting them go that I learned in Satyananda yoga. This feels like it is enough to get started with, but I’m definitely open to suggestions for further reading and learning about mindfulness meditation.
Have I noticed a difference in my self-discipline since I started meditating?
It’s hard to say. I do feel more aware of my emotions and feelings as they come up, and I’m also aware of the fact that I have a choice in how I react to things. This doesn’t mean I always make the right choice, and sometimes I still feel ambushed by a rogue wave of impatience and short temper. I hope that continuing to practice meditation will make it easier for me to be self-aware and make good choices. Meditating has already made me more aware of the nature of my thoughts during those short 10 minute sessions – do I really spend that much mental energy ruminating over past conversations? Defending my choices to imaginary detractors? Solving other people’s problems as though they were my own? It appears that I do.
Do you practice mindfulness through meditation, reminding yourself to be “in the moment” during the day, or through another spiritual practice? Do you have any advice or resources to share with someone just starting out?