Other times I donâ€™t say things that Iâ€™m thinking. Knowing when to be silent is important, but so is knowing when to speak up and being able to do so in an effective, respectful way.
Many, many times I say the same words and phrases over and over again, even when itâ€™s obviously not working. I do this out of habit, I suppose, and when Iâ€™m feeling frustrated and unwilling to take the time and energy to really connect or choose a more effective way of communicating. However, the feeling of speaking empty words to a child who is not listening because theyâ€™ve heard it all a hundred times before, well, it’s really very unpleasant.
As Amber says in her totally real, down to earth post, moms are great at providing dire warnings, whether or not theyâ€™re called for. I think itâ€™s completely understandable that parents are concerned about their childrenâ€™s safety and want to protect them. But overdoing the life-and-death warnings for things that are really just annoying is an excellent way of turning ourselves into the boy who called wolf. One day there might really be a life-and-death emergency and our kids wonâ€™t be listening.
My Playful Self-Discipline challenge for May is to focus on my communication. I want to say what I mean and mean what I say. I want to make eye contact with the person Iâ€™m speaking to when I say it. And I intend to listen with as much openness and presence as I possibly can.
Have you got a Playful Self-Discipline challenge this month? Iâ€™d love to hear about it!